Self-Responsibility
Everything that ever happened in our lives, we created ourselves.
For example, imagine that a tool you use daily suddenly goes missing, and you believe that a certain person has stolen it. Every time you need that tool and it is not there, you will resent that person, no matter how many times you forgive him. You may spend months releasing your anger and forgiving him, but each time you need that tool, you will resent him again.Now, supposing you realize that he had not stolen the tool, but instead you have misplaced it. Then there is no more resentment, and no more need forgive. This is how all life works. We go beyond negative feelings by realizing that we are responsible for what we create our lives.
Now this brings us to the issue of forgiveness. Many healers try to work with forgiveness but if you understand this principle you will see that forgiveness has no place in healing, because in order to forgive, you must first be a victim. If you take responsibility for what you have created, then the need to forgive somebody else does not arise. Often, the need to forgive is born out of judgement, because we are told not to hold negative feelings. In truth, we should accept all our feelings unconditionally.
/Paul Aziz, Working with Tree Spirits in SHAMANIC HEALING
